Back-to-school anxiety

Back-to-school anxiety is more common than many parents realize.

The start of a new school year often brings a mix of emotions for students, from excitement about seeing friends to nervousness about the unknown. Parents, especially those with neurodivergent children, may also have their own anxieties about the new school year and how their child will perform both academically and socially.

As summer winds down, be aware of the signs of back-to-school anxiety and what to do when nerves become something more concerning.

What are the signs of back-to-school anxiety?

The majority — 64% — of children's worries are centered on school, according to a Nemours KidsHealth survey. More than a third of children (37%) worry once a week or more often. This anxiety can stem from many things, not all of which are academic. While children may be concerned about new classes and grades, they also may worry about other parts of their lives that are affected by school, such as getting along with other kids, being away from parents or having busier schedules.

This anxiety about the start of a new school year can be seen in different ways. Children who are usually fine with being away from their parents may start to demonstrate separation anxiety. Younger children may complain about headaches or stomachaches, and older children may become irritable or withdrawn. In neurodivergent children, back-to-school anxiety can appear as increased sensory sensitivity, a need for rigid routines or repetitive behaviors.

Other common signs of back-to-school anxiety include:

• Avoidance behaviors
• Changes in appetite
• Distraction or inability to focus
• Excessive worry or fear
• Trouble sleeping

These symptoms can show up days or weeks before the school year begins. For some children, the worries fade once they start to establish their routines. For others, however, anxiety may persist once the school year is in full swing.

How to ease the transition back to school

Academic and social pressures can trigger anxiety, but you can employ some strategies to support a smoother, less stressful start to the school year for the whole family.

Get back into a routine

During the summer, children may sleep in or have more screen time during the day than they do during the school year. The switch from unlimited play to a more structured day can be disruptive and upsetting for many children. Establishing a routine at least a week before school starts can help ease the transition. Gradually introduce consistent morning and evening schedules. You may even want to practice drop-off and pickup scenarios. For younger children, doing a tour of the school or meeting teachers can help ease their concerns about the unknown.

Limit screen time

In the weeks before the start of school, dial down your child's screen time. Parental controls on tablets and smartphones allow parents to set downtime schedules so the device locks once time is up. Aim to shut off devices at least an hour before bedtime to reduce the potential impact on sleep.

Check your own anxiety level

Children can pick up on adults' emotions and model their behaviors. If you're worried about the school year, managing your stress with deep breathing or relaxation techniques such as meditation can help you cope. Rather than hiding your stress, model positive stress management and encourage your children to develop their own coping mechanisms.

Keep evenings low key

This is especially important during the first week of school. Avoid overscheduling activities and check in with your child to help them process their day. Genuinely listen to and validate your child's concerns rather than dismissing them. Although it may be tempting to step in and fix the situation, children often simply need a safe and supportive environment to express their feelings.

When to be concerned about school-related anxiety

A little anxiety before the new year is normal, especially if a child is changing schools or facing academic pressures. But if these worries start to affect your child's ability to function, you may need to dig deeper. Ask open-ended questions such as, "What are you most nervous about?" or "What would make you feel better about the first day?" Reassure them with affirmations (for example, "It's OK to feel nervous, but we'll get through it together"). Be attentive to their needs and pay close attention over the first few weeks of school; early intervention makes a big difference if professional help is needed.

Seeking professinal help

If your child's anxiety lasts more than a few weeks or gets worse or if it starts to interfere with daily activities, consider speaking with a mental health professional.

Your child's school may also have support systems and resources, such as a school psychologist or counselor. Children with disabilities, which includes anxiety and other mental health concerns, may be able to get an accommodation plan, such as an individualized education plan (IEP) or Section 504 plan.

Communication and support are key

Back-to-school anxiety is more common than many parents realize. But empathy, preparation and support can go a long way in ensuring a smooth transition to the new school year. By connecting with your child and creating space for them to voice their worries, you can build a foundation for healthy communication during life's challenges.

Find information about mental health resources from our larger health network, HCA Healthcare.